About Me

What I Do

About Jessica Hartley

Marriage Coach & Relationships Expert

Jessica has helped individuals and couples all over the world SAVE their marriage from divorce and learn to THRIVE in deep connection & strong lasting love.

 

She is a leader of her generation, REVOLUTIONIZING how we heal our marriages and turn them around for good.

110 +

Relationships Saved

14 +

Years of Experience

2000 +

Session Hours

7

Unique Programs and Retreats

14

FM Radio Shows

The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step...

I grew up in a home where love was pain.

My father was an alcoholic—physically and emotionally abusive. My mother, desperate for love, cycled through marriages and heartbreak. That was my blueprint for relationships: struggle, survival, and repeated failure.

So it’s no surprise that five years into my own marriage—despite how deeply I loved my husband—I found myself trapped in betrayal, heartbreak, and a painful unraveling.

Have you ever felt like you’re watching yourself, almost from a distance, re-creating the very future you swore you’d never repeat? You’re giving it your all—reading the books, going to therapy, trying everything they say should work—but nothing truly shifts. You’re stuck in the same looping patterns of fear, resentment, and emotional shutdown. You’ve been walking on eggshells so long, you can’t even remember what it feels like to be playful, passionate, or free to be fully yourself. And eventually, the stress you’ve been carrying starts to show up in your body.

You wonder… “Is this all there is?” “How did I lose myself in trying to save us?” “Will they ever truly change?”

And one day, mid-argument, they say the same hurtful words again—but this time, something inside of you snaps awake. You see it clearly: They are not going to change. And the hardest truth of all hits: Real love isn’t endless empathy without boundaries. Sometimes, the most loving thing you can do is let them go so they are forced to face their wounds and grow.

That was the moment everything changed for me. One night, after yet another fight, I collapsed on the bathroom floor and made a vow: This pain ends with me. I wasn’t going to pass these wounds down to my children. I would master love and relationship – and make that the legacy I leave behind.

I dove deep. I immersed myself in the psychology of connection, trauma healing, energy work, and spiritual transformation. Along the way, I earned a Master’s Degree in Spiritual Psychology, hosted a radio show, and built a thriving coaching business.

But the biggest breakthrough? It wasn’t in the books. It was in my own embodiment.  And what I discovered shattered everything we’ve been told about love.

But heres the truth: The traditional system is broken. It keeps us looping in pain. Rehashing the past.  Over-analyzing. Talking it to death. Because transformation doesn’t come from talking. It comes from shifting your energy. From aligning with your truth.

And we’re taught all the wrong things about saving our marriage. We’re told to compromise more, try harder, give it another chance. We’re told time heals all wounds, that couples therapy will save us, and that forgiveness is the answer.

But the traditional model turns healing into a slow, slow, surface- crutch.  It pathologizes pain.  It doesn’t help you reclaim your aliveness and It doesn’t tell you what to do when your partner refuses to rise.

Meanwhile, that quiet voice inside—the one whispering, “This can’t be it…”—gets buried under guilt, and shame -and worst of all; it gaslights your intuition.

But here’s what I know to be true: You don’t have too settle. You. Don’t have to shrink. And You don’t need to chase love. You just need to activate it within yourself.

And through years of research and practice, I discovered something powerful: everyone wants a successful relationship…. But there were 4 things thriving couples were doing that everyone else was not.

I began applying these shifts in my own life. And something incredible happened:

I stopped abandoning myself. What used to trigger me no longer did. I became radiant, magnetic, and free. I didn’t need external validation anymore. I became the source.  That line in the sand- my decision too choose me. It was the bravest, most gut-wrenching decision of my life. But it sparked a wildfire of transformation. It transformed my relationship, my life, my mission..

Soon, I began teaching my framework to others. Men and women standing at the edge of divorce, heartbreak, and despair. And the results? Nothing short of breathtaking.

90% of the time, when one partner elevates, the other rises too. Not because they were forced… but because the energy shifted. They were invited into a new field.

That’s when I knew I had cracked the code. A new path to fast, soul-level transformation—not through force or guilt, but by shifting the energy that allowed the dysfunction in the first place.  It’s about becoming the version of yourself that no longer tolerates misalignment.

Here’s the wild part: you don’t need both partners to be on board to activate the shift. You just need one person brave enough to break the cycle. Because energy is magnetic. And when one partner heals, elevates, and aligns—one of two things has to happen: the other naturally rises to meet them… or reveals why they can’t… and falls away.

What I know for sure is this: When you align with your highest expression, you’ll naturally invite your partner into their greatest transformation— or you create space for something even more aligned to arrive.

After 16+ years I’ve guided hundreds through infidelity, emotional shutdown, and the painful crossroads of “Should I stay or go?” And no matter how the story ends, the transformation is the same:

They stop chasing love. They become love.  And from that place, then they watch as love rises up to meet them.

That’s why I created The Chemistry Shift™—a sacred, results-driven framework rooted in personal responsibility, trauma healing, aligned action, and energetic embodiment.  It’s the path to extraordinary love—from the inside out.

The best part? It doesn’t take years. It doesn’t require rehashing the past. It doesn’t require your partner to be ready. And it doesn’t chase love—it activates it within you.   

Albert Einstein said: “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”

And the poet Rumi wrote: “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

But I like to say it like this:

Love was never meant to be chased. When you raise your frequency, stand in your truth, and reclaim your power—you don’t beg for love… you become the force that draws it in.

And I can show you how.

Marriage is only hard, when you don’t have the essential foundations in place.

There are many couples that have been struggling. For every 10 people that get married today, 4- 5 end in divorce while 3 of 10 of them feel trapped but stay married surviving the unhappiness. New research shows that our quality of life happiness is directly related to the quality of our relationship and “high conflict marriages turn out to be very bad for immune function, life expectancy and brain function, perhaps worse than getting divorced.”

I often work with couples that did not have an ideal model of love to follow.

Most couples give up on their marriage all too soon because they just did not have the right tools, right support or the right core foundation of love to base their relationship on. Without which, they are exhausting themselves by searching in the dark, and coming back to the same old patterns over and again. They must be able to heal the road blocks of past conditioning before they can embrace a completely different model of love that works. And that is where The Legendary Love Program comes in. I am a bold game changer, here to serve, uplift and transform the norms. I am motivated by altruism, self mastery and an enthusiasm for spreading the experience of a full, thriving, heart-centered Legendary Love life… which is unfortunately, a reality untouched by the masses. About half of my clients are couples and the other half work with me as the individual who’s partner has already given up. The program has been tested and proven to work powerfully and effectively to save the relationship in both scenarios.

You can spend the rest of your life growing more deeply in love with your best friend.

With so many ready for change, I am not interested in becoming your crutch or dragging this process out. This program does not drone on like years of therapy making small temporary changes along the way. It is as bold as I am, it gets right to the root, giving you multiple breakthroughs each week.  It doesn’t leave you hanging, because it provides you with the guidance, support and feedback you need, when you need it. The cognitive structure is designed to easily carry you through, into changes that last.

And let’s be honest, the very worst that can happen is that you will still divorce… BUT after going through the program it will be on good terms, having done your part, healed your greatest wounds, grounded in your strength, with confidence, the ability to transcend conflict and communicate effectively.

This program is designed to empower you. You will feel more alive, authentic, more at peace, and more confident than you ever have before.  You’ll become the model for your children and others around you.  The ripple effect continues outward from there.

I have your back, let’s do this!

Schedule Your
Marriage Mapping Session

Or Text or Call Jessica directly at (661) 347-8473

In just 60 minutes, we’ll take a look at the areas of your relationship that are the most challenging, frustrating & painful and create a custom-built plan to achieve what you want in your relationship.  Together we will map out the essential steps you need to thrive.  *You can create an ideal relationship with or without the direct participation of your partner.

This is your perfect way to get a taste of how I work and see if you’d like to work further with me.

Marriage Mapping Session: $45

Call or Text Jessica directly at (661) 347- 8473

Email Jessica Hartley at: Connect@JessicaHartley.com